I disengage most of the "safety" features. I find them intrusive at best and dangerous at worst. We have had the car for 2+ years and I still cannot figure out how to work the radio, the heater, or most other things. It is all touch screen and I cannot do anything without looking at the damn screen.
Leave aside actually doing the thing I want to do, just getting the screen on which I need to do the thing forces me to pull over. So I now turn everything off in the driveway. Then I put heat/ac on automatic. I link the car to my phone and look at my phone to do the radio. I still have eyes off the road, but it is much more limited and I know exactly where I am looking. I note that the truck always returns to defaults if i turn the thing off. So i never do - unless I must.
Once I spend a few minutes disabling and setting up, the truck is a really nice drive. Very comfortable for the 4+ hour trips to my parents' house for instance. But I I had to drive the thing every day, I might take a hammer to the thing it is so frustrating.
At one time there was button overload. Now we have gone 180 degrees. Almost no buttons just an unusable screen.
There are things that ARE very nice. The blind spot warning light on the side mirrors comes to mind. The back up camera as well - although I usually forget it is there and I do not see it because I am looking back. The rear end warning is mostly OK. Although on the highway, it is too sensitive. It has unexpectedly (and unnecessarily) engaged the brakes in morning commuter traffic. Scare the hell out of me all the time. The lane departure stuff is a real problem driving on the Merritt Parkway. That Parkway is narrow, winding and at points has little margin for error, the markings are not good and at some points there is a cement wall or railing right at the edge of the road, no brake down lane. For whatever reason, the lane departure "assist" tries to force me into the wall/railing. I am literally fighting to hold the car on the road. The dealer techs had no explanation. That was the FIRST thing disabled.
We put tape over the light sensor in the rear view mirror because the auto dim function was so aggressive it effectively blinded you to anything but headlights. At twilight, it simply made everything black - i assume because the contrast was not great enough. That was the second thing disabled.
I did the same on my E90 - what an improvement.
There are several more examples. Suffice it to say, i will be happy to return the Volvo in November. Not sure I will find a better choice though. I might "upgrade" to a 10+ year old car to avoid much of the tech crap.